http://goodlifediva.com/blog/2010/02/02/its-just-hair-right/#utm_source=feed&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=feed Reflections of a mom living the Good Life Wed, 07 Apr 2010 04:17:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://goodlifediva.com/blog/2010/02/02/its-just-hair-right/comment-page-1/#comment-95 goodlifediva Sat, 20 Feb 2010 14:53:51 +0000 http://goodlifediva.com/blog/?p=253#comment-95 Miesha, what a great response. As you can tell from my previous posts I have many many hair horror stories. I think most women do (unfortunately). I actually "went natural", as well. I haven't had a relaxer since fall 2007. Can't believe it's been almost 3 years. You bring up an interesting point about our daughter's perceptions of beauty, regardless of race. What we do speaks far louder to them than what we say. Great insight. Miesha, what a great response. As you can tell from my previous posts I have many many hair horror stories. I think most women do (unfortunately). I actually “went natural”, as well. I haven’t had a relaxer since fall 2007. Can’t believe it’s been almost 3 years. You bring up an interesting point about our daughter’s perceptions of beauty, regardless of race. What we do speaks far louder to them than what we say. Great insight.

]]> http://goodlifediva.com/blog/2010/02/02/its-just-hair-right/comment-page-1/#comment-92 Miesha Wed, 17 Feb 2010 00:41:53 +0000 http://goodlifediva.com/blog/?p=253#comment-92 My horror/hair story was quite recent. As a birthday gift to me in August, my sister sent me to her hairdresser, her treat. He assured me that he knew what he was doing, and he had done a great job on my sister's hair. I should have known something was wrong when he asked me no questions before applying the relaxer. And to make matters worse, I asked for a razor cut, showed him a picture (of Jennifer Hudson) with the style I wanted, and he told me he had done that style before. Well, when he was done, he had cut about 4 inches off my hair (unnecessarily), and styled it in a chin length Bob. Are you kidding me? My hair was past my shoulders when I walked in, and the picture I showed him didn't even slightly resemble a Bob. After I left, it began to fall out continually for weeks. It was a disaster. I was basically forced to make a change. But it was a change that I had been contemplating for a while because of my 5-year-old daughter. I ditched the relaxers and went natural. And it has been a blessing, because it is sometimes difficult to convince my beautiful African-American Princess that her hair is gorgeous just as it is when she watches her mommy straightening her hair all the time. (I am not against relaxers, this was just the best decision for our family). Now, she doesn’t tell me that she wishes she had hair like her Caucasian friends from school as often as she used to. Now she likes to touch my hair and tell me it looks like hers. Now she believes me when I tell her that her hair is beautiful the way God made it. My horror/hair story was quite recent. As a birthday gift to me in August, my sister sent me to her hairdresser, her treat. He assured me that he knew what he was doing, and he had done a great job on my sister’s hair. I should have known something was wrong when he asked me no questions before applying the relaxer. And to make matters worse, I asked for a razor cut, showed him a picture (of Jennifer Hudson) with the style I wanted, and he told me he had done that style before. Well, when he was done, he had cut about 4 inches off my hair (unnecessarily), and styled it in a chin length Bob. Are you kidding me? My hair was past my shoulders when I walked in, and the picture I showed him didn’t even slightly resemble a Bob. After I left, it began to fall out continually for weeks. It was a disaster.
I was basically forced to make a change. But it was a change that I had been contemplating for a while because of my 5-year-old daughter. I ditched the relaxers and went natural. And it has been a blessing, because it is sometimes difficult to convince my beautiful African-American Princess that her hair is gorgeous just as it is when she watches her mommy straightening her hair all the time. (I am not against relaxers, this was just the best decision for our family). Now, she doesn’t tell me that she wishes she had hair like her Caucasian friends from school as often as she used to. Now she likes to touch my hair and tell me it looks like hers. Now she believes me when I tell her that her hair is beautiful the way God made it.

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